FAQs
These are the questions I hear most often, grouped by what you might be looking for.
If your question isn't here, it's not too small to ask. Just get in touch.
Starting therapy
Do I need a reason to start therapy?
No. You don't need to be in crisis or have a clear reason to begin. Many people come because they feel overwhelmed, stuck, or anxious, or simply want space to reflect. Curiosity and a sense that something isn't quite right is enough.
What happens in the first session?
We'll gently explore what's been happening, what you're finding difficult, and what you're hoping therapy might offer. There's no pressure to share everything straight away. We move at whatever pace feels right for you.
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
If you're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, burnt out, anxious, or disconnected from yourself, therapy might help. The free consultation is a good way to get a feel for things before committing to anything.
Is the free consultation a sales call?
No. It's a 15 to 20 minute conversation where you can ask questions, get a sense of how I work, and see whether it feels like a fit. There's no pressure to book a session afterwards. If it's not right, I'll happily point you toward other options.
How long will I need therapy for?
There's no fixed timeline. Some people come for shorter-term support around something specific, others for longer-term work exploring deeper patterns. We check in regularly to make sure it's still feeling useful and right for you.
What if I don't know what to talk about?
That's completely fine. Many people arrive without a clear agenda. You don't need to prepare topics or have an emotional vocabulary ready. We start with whatever feels most present, even if that's "I don't know why I'm here." That in itself is something worth exploring.
Working with neurodivergent people
I think I might be autistic or ADHD but I'm not formally identified. Can I still work with you?
Absolutely. You don't need a formal identification, a referral, or any paperwork to begin. Many of my clients are late-identified, self-realising, or questioning. What matters is that you feel this is a space where you can be yourself, not that you arrive with a label.
Do you carry out autism or ADHD assessments?
No, I don't carry out formal assessments. I'm a psychotherapist, not a diagnostic clinician. What I offer is therapeutic support for people navigating life before, during, or after coming to understand their neurodivergence. If you're looking for an assessment, I can point you toward trusted resources.
I've had bad experiences with therapy before. How is yours different?
Many of my clients have been pathologised, dismissed, or misunderstood by previous therapists. My approach is neuroaffirming, which means I don't see your neurotype as a set of deficits to be corrected. I don't frame autistic traits as problems or ADHD traits as failures. I work from the assumption that your ways of thinking, feeling, communicating, and relating make sense given the world you're navigating. Therapy should help you understand yourself on your own terms, not train you to mask more effectively.
Can you accommodate my communication style?
Yes. Whether you process verbally, need to write things down, prefer to have your camera off, need breaks, or communicate differently from what a typical therapy setting expects, we'll find what works. Therapy shouldn't be another environment where you have to perform. If there's something specific you're worried about, mention it in the free consultation and we'll talk about it openly.
How do you work with anxiety?
Anxiety in neurodivergent people often looks different from what the textbooks describe. It might be the thoughts that spiral and feel impossible to interrupt. The rituals or routines that feel necessary and suffocating at the same time. The fear that arrives without warning and takes over your body. The slow shrinking of your world as avoidance grows. I work with the actual experience of anxiety in your life, not a generic protocol. We'll look at what triggers it, what maintains it, what it's protecting you from, and what would help you feel more steady. At your pace, always.
When working with experiences like OCD, I draw on evidence-based approaches including Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Inference based CBT (I-CBT). I adapt them for neurodivergent clients because standard CBT doesn't tend to work for us. The goal is to find what helps you feel more steady without asking you to ignore yourself and your needs.
What does "neurodivergent affirming" actually mean in practice?
It means I don't see your neurotype as a problem to be fixed. The struggles you've been told are yours alone often aren't. A lot of what gets labelled as dysfunction is actually a perfectly understandable response to a world that wasn't built for you. My role is to help you untangle what's yours to hold and what's the weight of everyone else's expectations. I'm not here to make you less neurodivergent. I'm here to help you feel more like yourself, and more supported in being that person.
I live with a chronic health condition. Do you have experience working with that?
Yes. I work with people living with chronic illness and chronic pain, including ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, dysautonomia (including POTS), and MCAS. These are frequently dismissed, misdiagnosed, or misunderstood by the very systems meant to support them. I bring understanding of that experience, including the frustration of not being believed and the energy drain of constantly having to explain yourself. I also live with chronic health conditions myself.
Sex and Relationship Therapy
Do you work with neurodivergent couples and mixed neurotype partnerships?
Yes. Many of the couples I see are navigating the dynamics of relationships where one or both partners are autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, or AuDHD. These relationships come with unique strengths and unique friction points. My role is to help both partners understand each other's processing styles, communication patterns, and sensory needs without blaming either person for being wired differently.
What relationship structures do you work with?
All of them. I work with monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and relationship anarchist configurations. I'm kink-aware and sex-positive. There's no judgment about how your relationship is structured, only care for whether it's working for the people in it.
Can we do relationship therapy if only one of us is neurodivergent?
Yes. In fact, this is one of the most common dynamics I see. Mixed neurotype relationships can be deeply rewarding and genuinely confusing for both partners. Therapy can help bridge the gap in understanding without framing either person's way of being in the world as the problem.
Is the therapy sex-positive? I've been told to avoid certain topics.
My practice is Pink Therapy aligned, which means I work with the full spectrum of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. Intimacy, desire, kink, identity, and the things people are told not to talk about are all valid topics here. If you've been told to avoid raising something in a therapy context before, I'd encourage you to consider whether that was the right framework. You're the expert on your own life.
I'm a sex worker. Is this a safe space for me?
Yes. My practice is sex-positive, and anti-oppressive. That's not a label I wear for marketing. It shows up in how I actually work. Whether you're navigating the impact of sex work on your relationships, identity, mental health, or safety, or whether you just want a therapist who doesn't require you to educate them first, you're welcome here. What you do for a living doesn't change whether you deserve care.
Trauma and recovery
How do you work with the aftermath of trauma, domestic abuse, or sexual harm?
When someone has used power over you, whether that's in a relationship, a family, a community, or an institution, the effects run deep and last long. I work with people rebuilding a sense of safety in their bodies, their relationships, and the world. This work is slow by design. There's no rushing recovery from things that took everything from you. I use a trauma-informed, stabilising approach. We go as slow as you need, and I will not push you to process before you're ready.
I survived domestic abuse. I'm worried about being pushed to talk about it before I'm ready.
You won't be. My approach is stabilising and paced around you. We don't start with the hardest things. We start with what feels manageable, and we build from there. You set the pace. If you need to talk about something else entirely for a while first, that's fine too.
Do you work with medical trauma?
Yes. Medical trauma isn't always recognised for what it is, but if you've experienced it, you know. It's the years of not being believed. The dismissals. The being told it's anxiety, or stress, or "all in your head" while your body is telling a different story. The procedures performed without adequate care or consent. The exhaustion of advocating for yourself in systems that weren't built to understand you, especially if you're neurodivergent, living with chronic illness, or both. That accumulates. It changes how you feel in your own body and how safe you feel in spaces that are supposed to help you. We can work with that. At your pace, always.
I was harmed by a previous therapist. How do I know this time will be different?
I'm sorry that happened to you. Being harmed by someone who was supposed to help is a particular kind of betrayal, and it can make the idea of trying again feel risky or even impossible. I take that seriously. In our first consultation, we can talk openly about what went wrong before and what you'd need to feel safe this time. You don't have to commit to anything. You don't have to trust me straight away. Trust is something we build, and you get to decide the pace of that too. If at any point something doesn't feel right, I want you to tell me. That's not a disruption. That's the work.
Do you practice conversion therapy of any kind?
No. Never. Conversion therapy, in any form, whether it targets sexual orientation, gender identity, or neurodivergence, is harmful. It's not a legitimate therapeutic approach and it has no place in my practice. My work is rooted in affirming who you are, not changing who you are. If anyone has told you that your identity, orientation, or neurotype needs fixing or changing, that says more about them than about you.
I'm a therapist and I've had harmful experiences in supervision. Can I raise that with you?
Yes, and I hope you would. Harm in supervision is real and more common than people talk about. It can look like being pathologised by your supervisor, having your identity or neurotype treated as a problem, being shamed for bringing uncertainty, or feeling like supervision is an evaluation rather than a support. If you've experienced that, I want you to know it wasn't okay, and it wasn't your fault. In our work together, supervision is collaborative, not hierarchical. You can bring the messiness, the doubt, the things that didn't go well, and the things you're proud of. I'm not here to judge you. I'm here to think and feel alongside you.
Practical questions
Do you offer in-person sessions?
No, I work fully online. This means I can support clients across the UK and internationally without the additional demands of travel or unfamiliar environments.
What platform do you use for sessions, and is it private?
Sessions take place via Proton Meet, a secure, encrypted video platform. I chose Proton because privacy is central to how it's built. I recently moved away from Zoom because I wanted a platform whose commitment to data protection matches my own. You don't need a Proton account to join a call. You just click the link I send you and we're in.
How much does therapy cost?
Individual therapy is £90 per 50-minute session. Relationship therapy is £120 per 50-minute session. Clinical supervision ranges from £90 to £135 per session. A free 15 to 20 minute initial consultation is available at no cost.
Do you offer reduced rates or a sliding scale?
Twenty per cent of my practice is allocated to reduced fee spaces. These are currently full, but I revisit this periodically. If this is something you need, let me know and I'll keep you informed. I'm also happy to signpost you toward lower-cost alternatives if my fees aren't accessible for you right now.
Can I switch between English and Spanish mid-session?
Yes. If you're bilingual or multilingual, you're welcome to move between languages as you need to. Sometimes the right word only exists in one language, and therapy should never be limited by which language you're expected to use. This is your space.
What are your session times?
I offer sessions Monday to Thursday, 09:00 to 17:00 GMT. Sessions can be weekly or fortnightly, depending on what works best for you.
What is your cancellation policy?
If you need to cancel or reschedule, please let me know at least 48 hours in advance. Sessions cancelled with less notice will be charged at the full rate. If something unexpected comes up, just get in touch as soon as you can.
Do you have space for new clients right now?
I'm currently at capacity for new clients. You're welcome to join the waitlist and I'll contact you when a space opens up. We can also have a free consultation while you wait, so that when a spot opens, you already know if it feels right.
How do you handle supervision and ethics as a therapist?
I'm registered with BACP and COSRT, which means I work within their codes of ethics and standards. I receive regular clinical supervision myself, and I engage in ongoing professional development to ensure my practice stays current, ethical, and effective.
What training do you have?
I hold a Postgraduate Diploma in Pluralistic Counselling and Psychotherapy from Abertay University, an MSc in Health Psychology and an MA in Psychology from the University of Aberdeen, and specialist Postgraduate Diplomas in Sex and Relationship Therapy and Clinical Supervision from the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology. I'm a pluralistic, relational integrative practitioner, and I work from the neurodiversity paradigm and the social model of disability.
Still have questions?
Just get in touch. There's no such thing as a silly question, and no obligation to take things any further.